Growing older at least in my case has initiated a sense of introspection and self-examination concerning my life and experiences. I have been on this particular planet for a little over 6 decades and I readily admit I am far from perfect. Life is a constant learning experience and I do believe that is exactly what God intended when He created humans to populate the world He created. I read an article recently written by Joshua Becker concerning some new and in my opinion interesting ways to measure success in a person’s life. So please bear with me as I share some of my thoughts.
Character – Mr. Becker writes and I agree that our character is best revealed not in the public eye but when we are in private. As an example I offer politicians, they tend to promise many things to the people or groups they are speaking to but when they are successfully elected they sell their souls to special interest groups or greedy supporters. What we do when no one is watching is just as important if not more important as what we do when people are watching. Besides, as a Christian I believe God is always watching and disappointing Him is serious business.
Contentment – Contentment can be a struggle especially in our ‘you can have it all’ culture. Sorry to disappoint people but no, you really can’t have it all. For one thing the term ‘all’ usually means an endless supply of something that you believe can bring you happiness. While having it ‘all’ in certain instances is attainable, obsession with acquiring everything you might want is a road paved with unhappiness. For instance I am very happily married so I am Blessed with what I believe is a successful marriage. However for that success to continue I still need to work and nurture the marriage for sustained success and contentment. Contentment in my opinion is something we need to constantly work on. It is not something we can attain and then just take it for granted. It’s a process.
Courage – Courage is something we all need from time to time to help us get thru challenges that we encounter in life. Being able to take action to overcome and persevere when a crisis arises is difficult but necessary. Faith in God helps as well as a good support system of family and friends.
Gratitude – Gratitude always despite your circumstances is also important if you wish to lead a successful life. Instead of whining and complaining about what you might not have, try being grateful for what you do have. I am grateful for my wife, my children and my life. Would I like to travel more and see the world? Sure. Would I like to be better off financially? Sure. However I have discovered that saying Thank You for what I do have has brought me a feeling of satisfaction and happiness that complaining never brings.
Hope – Hope especially during trying times can be difficult. My wife had serious injuries after a car accident several years ago and needed spinal surgery as a result of those injuries. You bet I had hope for her recovery. She has made remarkable progress but will probably never be 100% pain-free. Every-time she tries a new medicine or even a holistic approach to deal with her chronic pain I hope for better results. She has improved but it’s still a struggle and thru prayer I still hope for her to someday be pain free.
Perseverance – Failure is as much a part of life as success is. Failure teaches us life lessons. To continue on our path as successful people we need to learn from our mistakes and persevere to become the best person we can be.
Responsibility – A tough one here. Our society seems to embrace a mantra that seems to lead people to blame anyone but themselves for something they might have done wrong. Just look at Democrats who still blame Russia for Hillary Clinton losing America’s last Presidential election. Accepting responsibility for our mistakes is also a great way to learn and grow as a person.
Anyway, the topics listed here for judging success were the one’s I found most interesting. I would be curious if any readers had ideas and comments on how they measure personal success. Joshua Becker’s full article is linked here. If you have time give it a read.